Baby Talk

It all started when we were still engaged. All in one breath people would ask about the wedding then proceed to ask about when we were going to start having babies.  I thought it was just a small town thing and laughed it off but after the wedding it has gotten worse. Most conversations go like this:

Them: How is married life treating ya?

Me: Great! We love it so much especially since we're finally settled in Texas.

Them: Well, do we see babies in the near future?

Me: Um...no, my cousins just had babies and although they are great we are not ready for ones of our own. We're just enjoying the freedom and being married right now.

Them: (huge frown) Well honey you don't want to wait to long.

Me: (wanting to roll my eyes and yell  that i'm only 23 but don't) So...whats being going on with you? (or any change in conversation I can make seem as natural as possible)

Yes Andrew and I want to have a family with lots of little kids.Yes we don't want to wait till we are 40 to start our family but we are not ready for kids right now.  We are enjoying being married and figuring out our life here in Texas and thats OK.

I think as women we are so quick to judge other women.  We judge what they ware, the hair style they have, who they date, how much they weigh, the bag they carry, the car they drive and pretty much every single aspect of their life. Instead of judging we should respect that every woman is different. Some 23 year olds are ready to be parents and that is great but I'm not that girl: It dosen't mean either one of us is wrong it just means we're different.

We need to focus on supporting and building up each other vs. being judgmental. After all, We all feel pressure in some sense of our life. It might not be to start a family but maybe to loose the baby weight (or the freshman 15).  So next time your going to judge or criticize something about their life just think how you might feel and cut them a little slack; you don't know what battle she might be fighting.